Online Dating Conversation Starters

Here are some effective online dating conversation starters. | Photo by Vlada Karpovich on Pexels

Online dating has certainly made it easier for men of all ages to meet their potential partners. However, even with this platform, people still get nervous on what they should say. After all, they want to make a good first impression.

The good thing about online dating is that starting a conversation with someone isn’t as daunting as going out on a first date. After all, if it doesn’t work on one woman, you can just as easily move on to someone else. In addition, you can also save face considering the rejection didn’t happen in person.

With that said, you still have to send that first message in order to establish a connection. While a simple “Hello" is enough, you can always step up by picking the right conversation starters (that is after you’ve made introductions). The right topic can pique someone’s interest and start a long and engaging conversation. If you don’t know what topic to start with, here are a few suggestions (Note: These are also good conversation starters for texting):

1. Start a conversation based on what you found out of her profile or pictures.

Sometimes, a hello would not suffice. You still have to follow up your initial greeting with an actual conversation. With that said, you can put your observation skills to good use and thoroughly check out her profile on whatever dating service you signed up for. Not only can you get an idea what she’s like, but you can also use what you’ve found out to start a conversation.

Not only would she appreciate the different approach but she might be even impressed that you paid enough attention. If there’s one thing most women look for in a man, it’s the fact that he’s attentive.

2. Joke around

Have you ever wondered how some of the greatest comedians marry the most beautiful women in the world? That’s because humor is just one way to a woman’s heart. At the very least, the right joke would open doors for you to meet people.

Now, be mindful of the kind of joke you start with. If you’re trying to impress a foreign woman, make sure that the joke wouldn’t be considered offensive or taboo in her culture. After all, you wouldn’t want to put your foot in your mouth right after meeting her.

3. Give her a compliment

Another sure way to a woman’s heart is through flattery. Women appreciate men who make them feel good about themselves. However, if you really want to make a lasting impression, think of a less generic compliment.

Again, you’d have to put your observation skills to use and thoroughly check out her profile and even some of the pictures she uploaded. Don’t just comment on her looks because there’s a chance that other men have said the same thing.

Maybe her profile lists some of her career accomplishments. You can congratulate her on any of them. The point is make sure to come up with a compliment that no one has thought of yet.

4. Ask for some advice

There’s nothing wrong with asking for some help. If you give it a shot, you may just find love along the way. Besides, these days women are more open to dating men with flaws. And one way you can show your vulnerability is by asking for some advice.

Also, you never know if her advice can actually help you with whatever problems you’re encountering. Much like when it comes to finding love, you have to be just as open-minded when asking for help. But doing so can also bolster trust because it shows you value her input.

5. Ask thought-provoking questions

Forget the small-talk; don’t be afraid to delve and ask the important questions. Find out what are her thoughts on politics, religion, and current events. Not only will this let you get to know her better, but you also find out what’s open for discussion.

Couples who’ve been together for a long time can talk about anything and everything under the sun. This signifies that they are comfortable with one another and are highly compatible. You can gauge how well you get along based on her answers. If you have similar opinions on almost every issue, then you two just might hit it off.

Any of these methods would certainly get her to open up to you. But in order to retain her interest, you need to be engaging. This means being an active participant in the conversation. If she doesn’t feel like you’re contributing as much, she’ll stop talking to you at the drop of a hat. Here are a few ways you to engage her in conversation:

• Listen carefully.

This is probably the most crucial aspect of engaging in conversation. How do you expect to learn anything about her if you wouldn’t even listen to what she’s sharing? But listening isn’t just about hearing what she has to say, it’s also about paying attention to what she isn’t saying. Being attentive is one of the most attractive qualities in a person.

• Ask follow-up questions.

This is one of the best ways to show you’re listening. It also encourages her to share more about herself. Perhaps it would even give her a good impression of you.

• Limit distractions.

Whether you’re chatting online on dating sites or meeting in person, constantly checking on your phone is still a big no-no. If you keep checking notifications, naturally she’d think you weren’t interested in her in the first place. So set your phone on silent and give her your full attention.

• Ask open-ended questions.

One way you can keep the conversation going is to ask questions that can’t be answered with yes or no. Ask her questions that would force her to elaborate her answers, thereby allowing her to reveal more about herself.

In the end, even if you come up with the best opening line to a conversation, it would be all for naught if she doesn’t engage. These tips would help you get the ball rolling when dating online.